My son has had the privilege of growing up in a sober home. He has never seen his father or me drunk or high. He has never seen us smoke cigarettes, although he has seen pops with the occasional cigar. Yuck! He has grown up in the rooms of AA and attended Al-Ateen. He has the support of a great family counselor who thinks he's great and he feels the same about her.Regardless of all these wonderful gifts he is still a teenage boy. Hormones in full force, he has all the answers and sucks at lying. It's hard for him to get away with anything coming from two parents who have been there and done that. We have no manual. We have a set of Steps we live and a church to guide us as a family. We pray hard and live hard. We say the same things over and over and hope some day it will kick in. Until this teenage childs brain is fully developed we have to vigilantly remember where we came from and how we were at 14. YIKES! No comparison. None.
So breathe in and breathe out. Pray hard and have gratitude he is ahead of where we were at 14, emotionally and spiritually at least.
Today I am grateful for my family. I am grateful for our support system. I am grateful for laughter and letting go.
2 comments:
You and your husband are doing the best thing: living by example.
Just do your best darlin'. Lord know I'm paying attention because my kids will be there soon enough :)
I sometimes can remember the confusion of that age. It is a tough time. Glad that he has a background in recovery programs.
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